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I'm updating my blog through a repost. LOL.
Reposted from GJ's blog (http://alittletooimperfect.multiply.com):
There’s nothing wrong with being selfish. So what if people tell you na “sarili mo lang ang iniisip mo.” Okay lang yun noh.
Because no one else will do it for you the way you can. No one will ever look out for you the same way you will. No one will ever care for you the way you do.
Kapag sinasabi ng mga tao na “Kapakanan mo lang ang iniisip namin,” hindi yun totoo. Dahil ang totoo, what’s really important to them is what they and/or other people will think of them.
Kapakanan nila ang iniisip nila, because if they don’t say things like that, if they do not show that they care for you, it would be an affront to their identity as “friends” or “family”. They’re only doing it to show that they are “good” people. It never stems out from genuine desire and sincerity. "Nag-aalala kami sayo." People say that, and you ask why? "Kasi we're your friends/family, because we "love" you." Love becomes an excuse or naggiging tali.
In the end, kapag di sila nakatulong in any way, if and when they see you hurt, and they can't do anything about it, they’ll blame themselves and say: “What kind of a friend am I?”, “Anong klase akong magulang/anak/kapatid/kaibigan/tao?” Kapag nakita nilang nahihirapan ka, if they see you hurt, sisihin nila sarili nila. And this is a clear example of the point I am trying to make.
Well, other people will care..but it will always be from some sort of obligation, they feel they are bound to do so, because they are your friends/family, or they have to do it because it’s what qualifies them as “good” people.
When they say they're worrying about you, they're worrying about their reputation, their "duty", they're really thinking of themselves. They might care for you or give you love, maybe because they expect some of it back.
And if they don't, then it would be an affirmation of their "goodness" -as someone who gives love and "does not expect anything in return." When this happens, you are the "bad" person, and they're the martyrs.
All you’ll ever really have is yourself. That’s the truth. It's not something to be sad or angry about. That's just how things are.
Reposted from GJ's blog (http://alittletooimperfect.multiply.com):
There’s nothing wrong with being selfish. So what if people tell you na “sarili mo lang ang iniisip mo.” Okay lang yun noh.
Because no one else will do it for you the way you can. No one will ever look out for you the same way you will. No one will ever care for you the way you do.
Kapag sinasabi ng mga tao na “Kapakanan mo lang ang iniisip namin,” hindi yun totoo. Dahil ang totoo, what’s really important to them is what they and/or other people will think of them.
Kapakanan nila ang iniisip nila, because if they don’t say things like that, if they do not show that they care for you, it would be an affront to their identity as “friends” or “family”. They’re only doing it to show that they are “good” people. It never stems out from genuine desire and sincerity. "Nag-aalala kami sayo." People say that, and you ask why? "Kasi we're your friends/family, because we "love" you." Love becomes an excuse or naggiging tali.
In the end, kapag di sila nakatulong in any way, if and when they see you hurt, and they can't do anything about it, they’ll blame themselves and say: “What kind of a friend am I?”, “Anong klase akong magulang/anak/kapatid/kaibigan/tao?” Kapag nakita nilang nahihirapan ka, if they see you hurt, sisihin nila sarili nila. And this is a clear example of the point I am trying to make.
Well, other people will care..but it will always be from some sort of obligation, they feel they are bound to do so, because they are your friends/family, or they have to do it because it’s what qualifies them as “good” people.
When they say they're worrying about you, they're worrying about their reputation, their "duty", they're really thinking of themselves. They might care for you or give you love, maybe because they expect some of it back.
And if they don't, then it would be an affirmation of their "goodness" -as someone who gives love and "does not expect anything in return." When this happens, you are the "bad" person, and they're the martyrs.
All you’ll ever really have is yourself. That’s the truth. It's not something to be sad or angry about. That's just how things are.
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